When I look back at all the years that I chased the desires of the world and at all the years that I’ve walked hand in hand with Jesus, I can say with certainty that I am not the same girl I was years ago. I’ve matured and grown in ways I never imagined. I’ve experience things, both good and bad, that have made me who I am today. I have seen restoration in the most broken areas of my life. I’ve experience the love of God in ways that are absolutely indescribable and undeniable.
Despite all that has changed, I am still a work in progress. I am far from perfect. I am far from having it all together. My heart is still messy and wild. My thoughts and insecurities can get the best of me some days. Sometimes lies speak louder than God’s truth. Sometimes the “treasures” of the world seem so much more alluring than the sacrifice and taming of the flesh that comes with following Christ. I can speak freely about these imperfections in my life because I never want these issues to be cloaked in darkness or attempt to make roots in my heart and give birth to sin. Sin when it is full grown, gives birth to death. (James 1:15).
As I try to navigate through life along with every other woman on Earth, I’ve come to realize that every woman on Earth, whether they follow Jesus or not, possesses this innate desire to belong; to be validated. This longing to just be seen. We are all crying out to be seen, some louder and more desperate than others, yet the longing is still the same. All over social media, women are flooding timelines with filtered selfies to garner the most likes. Facebook status, tweets, Instagram photos are crafted in such a way that the edited version of their lives look much more fascinating than it really is. Women are buying into the lies that perfection is the standard of beauty. Some are chasing every trend in order to pretty up their outer appearance while their hearts are empty. Some drape their revealing clothing over their insecure hearts, hoping that they are not too damaged or too far gone to be desired. Some are trading convictions for comfort, sacrificing their hearts and bodies on the altar of the bedroom, hoping to be seen and loved.
I’ve been her. I’ve been the girl who sought her worth in the opinions of others, especially men. I’ve been that girl who settled for what I thought I was worth instead of what I now know I am worth, all for the sake of being seen. The journey of being seen and validated by the world and those in it is a lonely and unfulfilling one. You will never measure up. You will never be fulfilled. Instead of placing your worth in the hands of those who have no right to judge, why not try placing your worth in hands of the One who sees you, every inch of you, and loves you just as you are?
For the girl who desires to be seen:
You are worth more than a broken heart.
You are worth more than putting your body on display for all the world to see.
You are worth more than being stripped of your dignity for applause.
You are worth more than the edited version of your life.
You are worth more than being dependent on occasional compliments to make you feel valuable.
You are worth more than giving in to what feels good rather than what you know is right.
You are worth more because God, your creator, says you are worth more. Jesus died so He could redeem everything that has been broken in our lives. His sacrifice on the cross meant that you were worth dying for. He calls you fearfully and wonderfully made. He loves you whether you sin or stay on the straight and narrow. He will never harm you or leave you when things get tough. He fights for you. He cries for you. He smiles at the thought of you. He is in it for the long haul because He knows you are worth it. You do not have to work for His affections or His approval. He sees you. Even when you are waist deep in sin and shame, He sees you. And He loves.
You are worth being respected and honored.
You are worth being pursued.
You are worth being protected.
You are worth having a life filled with laughter, joy and purpose.
You are worth being made whole in Christ.
You are worth being loved. Pure and simple.
You really are worth it and you are seen by the One whose opinion is the only one that truly matters.