I was talking with a friend last night about two very important topics…Jesus and boys. She asked one of the age old questions that I had to stop and think about.
“Why do good girls always go after the bad boys?”
Now as someone who spent quiet a few teenage years chasing after the bad boys, I really couldn’t think of any logical reason why any sensible, God fearing woman would chase after some rebel without a cause. But it happens. More often than it should.
Maybe it’s the thrill of capturing the attention of someone who is wild and rough around the edges.
Maybe it’s the intrigue of swooning after someone who walks to the beat of their own drum, shrugging off the commands of authority.
Maybe it’s the innate desire to be protected by someone who go against the grain.
Wrong.
Maybe it’s because good girls don’t realize they should be pursued instead of chasing someone who delights in attention from women who are willing to chase them.
Maybe it’s because good girls are deceived into believing they have to work to earn love and affection from men who treat them with such a cavalier attitude.
Maybe it’s because good girls are busy focusing on the outward appearances that don’t speak to the heart of someone.
Maybe. Just maybe.
I didn’t have a clear answer to why good girls like bad boys. I just know that chasing after the riding off into the sunset on his motorcycle movie ending type of fantasy just doesn’t appeal to me. Bad boys don’t make me get butterflies or the random desire to scribble their names on a notebook with X’s and O’s.
A man who loves the Lord with all his heart, all his soul, all his strength and lives accordingly does.
A man who serves before wanting to be served does.
A man who is a leader and can submit to authority does.
A man who strives for righteousness and not perfection does.
A man who desires to change the face of this Earth, one redeemed heart at a time does.
A man who is a warrior for God’s kingdom, not his own kingdom does.
Why do good girls love bad boys? Who knows. I would much rather be that woman after God’s own heart being pursued by a man after the same thing.
Much better movie ending.
Loooooooove it!
I wish I could say I was like you but sadly I have always been the Good girl chasing the Bad boy. I think to me the appeal was the desire to “fix” them. I always thought if I could get a bad boy to love me I could help him become something more. However men dont change and cant be fixed. Sadly my heart does not want to learn that.
I was that girl that thought I could fix bad boys too but I finally realized that because I was broken on the inside, I was attracting broken men who carried around the bad boy facade. When I finally left all my baggage and my broken spirit at the feet of Jesus, I stopped chasing after things I was never meant to go after. I allowed Him to chase me, love me, heal me, and restore me so that I could receive that same type of attention and affection from the one who is supposed to be the one I “ride off into the sunset with.”
Speaking the truth!
I think that for me it was this…
“Maybe it’s the intrigue of swooning after someone who walks to the beat of their own drum, shrugging off the commands of authority.”
I wanted a man who was different than the others. At the time, I didn’t know the different I needed was a guy following Christ. So therefore, I always “went” for the one that was different who somehow always turned out to be the bad boy. I actually was the “good” girl- as good as you can be when you don’t have a moral system based in something besides what you make up to be good. I was known as the good girl in school and I figured out how good that was. I finally caught on to why the bad guys liked me. lol. Wow, being naive is not a good look. I’ve been blessed to have since becoming a whole person myself to have been found by a guy who does walk to the beat of their own drum – more like Christ’s drum.. and because He follows the authority of Christ, I know I’m well taken care of.
Continue to speak the truth!
Love this! – I guess the answer just depends on how you define “bad boy.” If you’re referring to the whole attitude and personality, not so much for me. But the “bad boy” look I don’t see anything wrong with it. Everyone’s attracted to different looking people. You can look like a rebel and still have a heart for God.