This video from the Passion For Christ Movement’s Lyric’s Lounge is by far my favorite. I first came across this video pearl of wisdom not to long after coming back to church and it was right on time. I had only heard mention of the term soul ties in the sermon that helped paved the way for me to accept Christ. That night, Pastor Johnson had anyone who struggled with soul ties because of previous relationships, unhealthy friendship or sexual sin, pray a prayer to severe the connections. I remember praying the prayer and feeling a sense of freedom. I was speaking out against any ungodly emotional and spiritual connections I had made that I should not have. I still have a copy of the prayer in a journal that I go back to on occasions when my mind starts to romanticize my past.
Sexual sin is the sure-fire way to create soul ties that many spend a lifetime battling. We chase worldly love which says that sex outside of marriage is okay. Worldly love says that love is blind and we should just follow our hearts and be satisfied in our flesh. Following a heart that is deceitful above all things usually results in sex that will leave you more empty than when you arrived. Yet, the flesh wants what it wants and we rationalize with the sin until we buy into the idea that at some point, sex and warm bodies will fill that God sized hole that you have. Been there, done that.
Sex is intended for pleasures inside of marriage so that the man and woman can become joined together as one. Their souls become knit together and create a strong spiritual and emotional connection. Their hearts, mind and emotions become intertwined; they truly become one flesh. But if you are having sex with someone who is not your husband or wife, you are still creating those strong connections. In most cases, the relationship eventually ends but with both hearts are still intertwined. The demise of that relationship means that somehow, those two hearts that have become one have to be ripped apart, leaving remnants of him embedded in her heart and remnants of her embedded in his. Sexual sin and heartbreak usually go hand in hand. As you move on from one relationship to the next, that damaged heart is still being ripped apart every time you give it away to an undeserving person, leaving pieces with whomever you had the unfortunate pleasure of created a soul tie with.
So many people wonder why they can’t let go of ex-boyfriends or girlfriends well after the relationship has ended. It’s because they left part of their heart and soul on their bed sheets. They created a soul tie with someone they were not meant to connect with on that level. God never intended for us to be so careless and reckless with our hearts and bodies, though we trade pleasing Him for pleasing ourselves. So many marriages crumble because two people with incomplete hearts and souls get together and try to make it work. I’m sure no bride wants to present her heart and body to her husband on her wedding day with pieces of her exes still attached.
Sexual sin and soul ties cause a space between us and God. As we turn our heart towards the sin, we turn it away from true Lover of our soul. As the chasm between us and God widens, the conviction we should feel while being immersed in sexual escapades become less and less apparent. That God sized hole never gets filled no matter how much sex and sin we burden ourselves with. But when sex stops being satisfying, running from person to person stops being satisfying, staying in unhealthy relationships because the connection is so strong stops being satisfying, He is still there. He is always faithful in His promise to never leave you, to never hurt you, to always provide for you, to always protect you, to always fulfil all of your needs.
Sex never promised you anything. Is it worth it?